Hey there, nice to see you! It’s been a minute, huh? What’s new? What’s in your cup? Mine is plain old coffee with almond milk. Not even fancy creamer or sweetener today. Yes, my purple is almost 100% faded out and I’m back to blond. It was a fun experiment to get me through some of the monotony of quarantine, but isn’t feasible or healthy for my hair to keep up.
What did you do to get through the monotony? Did you take on anything new? Tackle the never ending to-do list? Learn a new language or pick up a new hobby? It’s great if you did…but it’s also really fine if you didn’t.
I actually don’t hold judgement on what you did or didn’t do during the last year because it’s not my place to really care. And I don’t…but for the people out there like me, who have a lot of anxiety about what isn’t getting done, learned, or mastered. Who may be upset with themselves because a year later, they feel like nothing got done!
I’ve seen the post too many times. Some variance of “A year later, my to-do list isn’t any shorter” or “I didn’t get any of those things I thought I’d get done if I just had more time at home.”
What if I suggested that all the things you thought you’d get done while home during 2020? They weren’t ever likely really going to get done. Sure, it’s fine to try new hobbies, but how many of us really had extra time, mental or emotional bandwidth to actually learn something new or get that list of to do things done?
Hear me out.
Many of us spent the first part of 2020 in a state of uncertainty, questioning, confusion, and possibly panic of some sort. We couldn’t even get toilet paper for crying out loud.
The second part was about adjusting, getting the hang of the new rules and way of doing things. We could get toilet paper, but other random things were M.I.A.
It was done with not only full-time work for many of us but learning a new way of working. Everyone was adjusting to remote learning of students in some way. Even if you didn’t have kids home learning your coworkers, clients, or consultants did. Many people who had to physically leave the house to GO to work every day expected more from those of us who were working from home, because well, you’re home all day, what are you doing? (Truthfully, I think a lot of us who were working from home expected even more from ourselves, too.)
I don’t know about you, but I didn’t have a whole lot of energy left to do something new. I read a lot. I crafted a lot, but only things I have muscle memory for, I went outside when I could.
So my list of “Things I’d do if I just had more time at home” didn’t happen. It’s okay. I didn’t fail. You didn’t fail. But even if you did “fail”, the time home wasn’t what you thought it was to begin with.